My husband and I started having problem Nov 2004, then it got worst as soon as a young girl started working Home Health Care for his elderly father. He started changing and I picked up on the details ,phone bills, etc…I felt he was cheating on me because he was out up until 2am sometimes at night… He denied it..In 2005 I applied for a job in PA , then moved out , because of the now abuse , Even his friends said he changed..I strongly believe that she took him from me an d soured our relationship.. We were in-love… After I moved out of state, he fell apart but still I was told his demeanor was strange. He now had a child for this fgirl but we couldnt get pregnant. I am sooo hurt. all his relatives love me very much but i shut myself out of existance from the pain.. He now refused to answer my emails , letters, etc.. I trully believe that Voodoo ( witchcraft) was done; she took him unwillingly, ( she is not a pretty girl either). As i knew she wanted him badly. Now he is in a bind with a child , not sure its his but he is claiming it as his.. I am still legally married to him.. ( didn’t rush the divorce for fear she would make him marry her).. Im at lost and hurt because she sent me away to be with MY husband, and since 2006 , he blames me for leaving. Please let me know that you understand my pain, is there something i can do .. I only started really missing him this year . ( he hasnt seen me since 5/2005(when i left)..How can i get my husband back!!

I can understand your dilemma. Its hard to go through an experience like this. You behaved very maturely while your husband behaved very ignorantly. When a person does something like this, it hurts us so much that we are unable to think clearly. Now that you can look back at this experience, can you trust your husband again? There will always be a small, gnawing doubt in you that you will never be able to let go of. Going for counseling may help. People do make mistakes and your husband may be able to prove to you that he is worthy of your love again. Or he may revert back to his habit of blaming you for all the mistakes HE made and will make in the future. You have to think deeply whether he is really worth it. The fact that his family likes you does not mean anything. Your husband cheated on you. So it is up to you to decide whether you want him back. Families cannot do much to our love life and our happiness. As adults, we are responsible for our happiness. If this man is blaming you for driving him into an adulterous affair, then you really need to think of how his mind works. He isn’t even adult enough to admit his mistakes. What you need to do is to open up your mind to possilities. Decide if you want him back and take the risk of a bad, abusive marriage. Or move away, and start a new life with someone who will be dedicated to you and will stay true to you even when you are not around.They say we have more than five soulmates in this world. Its your choice and I hope you will choose wisely. To avoid Voodoo or any such curses, imagine yourself cocooned in a globe made of a tough reflective metallic shell. All negative energy that is coming towards you is deflected back to its source. If you decide that you will not be accepting any negative energy (blame, guilt,stress, worry, etc) your mind will be at peace and you can make wise decisions. Brightest Blessings!